Things we don’t know
In life we see things through our own lens!
Just to mention here that I don’t mean contact lens or spectacles. When I refer to lens… my reference is our belief system and the conversations which we have in our mind, that shapes our definition of our world or for that matter the perception that we have of ourselves due to the conversation in our mind.
Our feeling are based on the tags we give to people or situations . Therefore the responsibility of tagging situations and people correctly is so important! Our interpretation of what we see must reflect the correct emotions to people or situation we are confronted with.
It is with this background when I say that we see life through our lenses, it is important to align it with the lens of reality….
What provoked me to write this blog and topic is the conversation I had with my mother this morning. She is undergoing #chemotherapy and when I came to the hospital, I asked her about her conversations in her mind that makes her so calm and positive. And she responded by saying that life is all about priority management. Having her loved ones by her side in the crisis has given her a lot of comfort.
But when she came to talk about her father (#RajKapoor ) ” I never knew that he loved me till he died” I was very surprised with this statement ! I asked immediately, what do you mean you did not know till he died?
She went on to say that, after his death the #Soviet-Union requested her to write a book on Raj Kapoor and they wanted her to do the book to bring out the Raj Kapoor, the man known through the eyes of a family member and not just the Raj Kapoor who was known as a man of cinema.
So while she was writing this book, she started her research and asked all the family members and friends and others who had memories of him. During the research she found something that moved her emotionally. When my mother got married, my grandfather had sung a song for her doli and soon after her marriage he was visiting #Moscow and in the crowds of people he started to sing the same doli song, because he missed her and someone happened to be there who recorded this song. So when she came across this recording she was so touched and felt so much comfort that today also I see my mother hear her fathers songs, which in many manner is her way of connecting with her father, or perhaps her way of holding his hand.
Now back to the lens of what my mother thought and her father’s love for all his children.
While I have narrated a very personal story of my mother, if we were to expand it to larger context it applies to all of us.
Have you ever had a perception of someone or a situation which was contrary to reality ? Were you ever surprised positively in any situation in life which changed your belief about someone?
This can also apply to people who may have been disappointed in situation when they expected support but landed them self with disappointments.
So in the nutshell, try and cleanse your lens and identify people for who they really are and not from what they appear…
And in the end I leave you with the saying “We see what we feel”.